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[cillab42]

Last night moy mom told me that she was going to stop taking her dislysis treatment, and just a few moments ago she tlod me to get the house in order for when people come to pay their respects. What do you say to that?

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[saltandburnboys.livejournal.com]

I honestly don't know. :-/

Why is she stopping - is she in too much pain?

xx

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

She says that she doesn't want to do this for the rest of her life. It's a hard thing to and when she looks at the people who have been in treatment for 10-12 years, she doesn't want that.

[saltandburnboys.livejournal.com]

Aww...I'm really sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult that must be for you, and for her to make that decision. My thoughts are with you and your family...

xx

[thestarkat.livejournal.com]

I couldn't begin to know what to say to that, but I'm sending virtual hugs your way.

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

Thank you because I can really use them right now.

[jojothecr.livejournal.com]

Christ... I really don't know what else to say to that. I'm sorry.

*hugs*

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

Thank you! Hugs say a lot.

[deceptivemirror.livejournal.com]

Excuse the drive-by comment...but my own mother prepared me for her death as well in a similar fashion; she had been undergoing chemo for her ovarian cancer. The only explanation I can offer is that knowing that her affairs and wishes would be carried out both before and after her death eased her mind and allowed her to enjoy the rest of her time without worry.

It's coming up on four years since my mother lost her fight. She repeatedly told me where things were, what to do, where her will was, and I told her that yes, she had prepared me well. Your mother is going to always be your mother, her choices notwithstanding, and she wants to ensure that you know what to do when the time comes, AND that you will be able to continue after she is gone.

This isn't an easy thing to hear. It wasn't for me. Just remember that she is telling you to prepare because of her love for you, not because of self-defeatism. My thoughts are with you.

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

As her primary care-giver for the past three , well almost four years she's told me what she wants and how she wants to be buried and I guess I thought that I was prepared for this. I'm not.

I was both surprised and releaved that she decided to start dialysis because she had always said that she wouldn't, but now here we are.

I want to honor her wishes no matter how much it hurts because I'm not the one going through this. I'll get through it, but it's gonna be painful.

Thank you for taking the time to give me a little comfort, it means a lot.

[deceptivemirror.livejournal.com]

You can prepare, but the thing is, even when you are fully prepared for what may or may not happen, it will blindside you. It's not going to be easier because you know what to do; it's just going to not be as distracting when you are doing what you will have to do.

::hugs:: If you would like to talk more about it, feel free to PM me. When I saw this on a friend's feed, I couldn't just let this go after having been through it myself.

[bt-kady.livejournal.com]

Oh, hon. *hugs* I don't know what to say beyond that I'm here for you.

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

Thats good enough. When you're kinda of cut off from everything, just to know that someone cares is enough.

[bt-kady.livejournal.com]

<3<3<3

[obsidianromance.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry to hear that sweetie! *hugs*
I cannot imagine what you are going through. If you need to chat, please PM me. Xoxo

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

I think that that is what she's doing as well and I kind of saw this coming but it still hurts like hell. I am just wrapping myself in the love from this community that is being sent my way. Thank you so much.

[pinkyapples.livejournal.com]

Nothing, just know you are loved.

[cillab42.livejournal.com]

Thank you for that, it means a lot.